Relationships | Bag Lady
Bag lady you gone hurt your back, Dragging all them bags like that
Women, have the tendency to be seen as two things, weak or strong. Ironically, we can never be what we need to be in the moment we need to be it. Sometimes, I don’t want to be strong and want to lean on someone else for help. Sometimes, I don’t want to be weak, and want to be able to do things on my own. Most times, I don’t have a say. But what I can say for sure is, a lot of us keep most things to ourselves in either failure of finding a healthy way to deal with it or because we don’t know how to go about dealing with it at all. We hold on to so much in life, from childhood that grows with us into adulthood, where before we know it, that problem has become bigger than ourselves. We get so absorbed in it that it starts to take over our lives, and worse, our relationships. Then we are stuck wondering when did we become the infamous bag lady.
I guess nobody ever told you, All you must hold onto, Is you
You have trust issues? Who doesn’t, what are you doing to fix that. You always end up getting your heartbroken? We’ve all been there. Take a look at the type of men you are attracting and change your environment. Only thing we need to keep, is our identity. Who are you without the pain? Who are you without the hurting? This is the person you need to remember and always achieve to be. Don’t let your baggage identify who you are. You identify it! Listen, you don’t have to hold on to every single thing that has hurt you. So let it all go, you don’t have to hold on to it forever. I know you’re tired of it being in your space.
One day all them bags gone get in your way
If you allow your problems to become bigger than they need to, then you will never get where you need to be going. It will drag you down and get in the way of a better life. I can’t explain how many times I’ve let my past relationships third wheel in the new ones I was trying to create. They would pretty much become a cock blocker. Not allowing the new person in my life to really get to know me, instead they would only get to know my pain. So then I would try to act like it wasn’t there, I thought if I became unrecognizable to my pain it wouldn’t follow me. That if I become a completely different person who was happy and giddy all the time, it would disappear and get lost but pain just sat it’s ass laughing at me, waiting for me to screw it up. Which I did. I finally had to realize, I can only do one relationship at a time. So I stopped dating men and started dating my pain, only to figure out how to break up with it.
When they see you coming,
Niggas take off running,
From you it's true, oh yes they do
Dating while holding on to all of your problems isn’t something that can’t be done, but it definitely adds on more trouble than needed. Let’s face the truth, men don’t want to date women with baggage. Now before you get offended by this, put yourself in their shoes. When was the last time you dated somebody who was still dealing with their past? How were you during that relationship? Were you supportive and understanding, or annoyed and ready to run for the hills? We want a man to be able to fix something that he was not the creator of and not present when it all was going down. You have to think of how much pressure it is for your partner to tip toe through a relationship with you, scared at failing to show that they are not your past, that they are not your ex. We cannot expect someone to fix something, when we can’t fix it ourselves. It is not their responsibility, it is yours!
Oh when someone hurts you oh so bad inside,
You can't deny it you can't stop crying
I know, shit sucks. Life can get hard, you get your hopes up and heartbroken. It happens to all of us. I can’t tell you the damage that has been put on me in past relationships, that essentially caused me to do damage to myself. And I look back at that time and just wished that it didn’t take me so long to overcome that. I wish I was stronger, or became stronger quicker. And that’s okay, it is sadly, one of the natural orders of life. But you rise from it. You cry, but you don’t keep crying. You get up and you fix yourself. Because at the end of the day, it will all be okay. You will get passed it.
So where my garbage bag lady
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
So here’s what I ask you to do. Start with the small stuff first and unload those from your mind. Write a list of the reasons you should let them go. See on paper the damage it has done, let that be your motivator on getting rid of it.
What about my grocery bag lady?
(Bet ya love could make it better)
Evaluate the situation and then address it accordingly. What mind set were you in when it happened? Do you still feel the same way you did about it today as you did then? If not, it probably wasn’t that big of a deal in the first place because most times we react from being in the moment.
I'm talking to my Gucci bag lady
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Start accepting things for what they are and separate yourself by separating your emotions so you can see clearly.
What about my paper sack lady?
(Bet ya love could make it better)
Realize that letting go will finally allow you to see what you are capable of in life. You will finally feel a heavy burden being lifted and you will walk freely.
What about my nickel bag lady?
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
There will be nothing holding you back anymore. You can go about living your life without the negative thoughts lingering around it.
Backpack on ya back, back lady
(Bet ya love could make it better)
Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for your past. Forgive yourself for letting it consume you. Forgive yourself for falling into your emotions and staying there. And then, start to forgive everybody else.
What about my booty bag lady?
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Let the small fears go so you can be able to create healthy relationships with your partner. So you can be able to form a loving bond with your family. Open up to them on what scares you and how they can assist, not solve, with your troubles.
And what about the cheeba sack babies?
(Bet ya love could make it better)
Learn from your past, figure out what lesson it was trying to show you that you couldn’t see through your tears.
So what about the plastic bag lady?
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Stop focusing heavenly on what went wrong. Accept the fact that it happened, and there was nothing that could have been done to change that. Stop asking “Why they did this?” and “What you did wrong?” Practice acceptance.
And my baby bag mamas, yeah
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Don’t repeat the same cycle. Get the narrative out of your head that all guys do this, or all girls act like this. You only set yourself and them up for failure.
All my bookbag ladies
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Understand that not everything is meant to last. Some people, things, and situations are meant to only be a lesson in life.
Ziploc bag lady
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Let yourself feel sad, don’t hide your baggage. Express it and once you get out all the anger, you’ll feel better and be ready to move forward.
What about my Fendi bag ladies?
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Work on your self esteem and self love. You will have to pick yourself up from whatever has been holding you down. Love yourself unconditional, that is the only way you will be able to get through it.
All of my shopping bag ladies
(Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go)
Remember everybody is different. So give them a chance, not all your relationships will end the same. You will find love again, so develop a positive outlook on your future and..
